It’s been a beautiful fall with mild temperatures and vibrant, colorful leaves. But in the last few days, there’s been a shift. The temperatures have begun to drop, and this morning, I woke to the sound of the wind rushing past my window. Snow already blanketed nearby states, signaling that winter is on its way. The season will change, and we’ll experience the winter solstice–the longest night of the year.
A friend of mine recently confessed that she hates winter. The cold, shorter days, increased darkness, and being inside leaves her feeling miserable. Another friend, perpetually cold, approached winter with layers of clothing and snuggling under blankets. Neither of them is thrilled with the change of season,yet their responses are very different. It reminds me of how much our perspective shapes our experience, even when the reality of the changing seasons remains the same.
For many, winter brings not only colder weather but also the winter blues. The shift into holiday season can be bittersweet. While some revel in nostalgia and warm family gatherings, others feel the strain of the hustle and bustle, financial pressures, or loneliness. As the holidays pass, we enter the long stretch of colder months, and life can feel a bit dreary. It is important to acknowledge that our feelings about this season–whether joy, melancholy, or ambivalence–are valid. Sharing these feelings with someone we trust can be a powerful step toward finding comfort.
The antidote to winter’s challenges often lies in how we respond to them. Instead of resisting what we cannot change, we can choose small actions that bring us joy or comfort. I like to read or listen to a good book. I am also not ashamed to admit that I find relaxation in adult coloring. Walk or move your body whenever you can. Staying sedentary tends to feed its own cycle, making us feel even less motivated. Eat good foods because nutrition is life. While the junk food might seem like a quick fix, it often leaves us feeling even more empty and miserable in the long run. A warm beverage with a friend, a trip to the spa, or even light therapy can also brighten dark days.
Frank Sinatra sang,“Oh the weather outside is frightful, but the fire is so delightful…and since we’ve no place to go, let it snow, let it snow, let it snow. Oh it doesn’t show signs of stopping, and I’ve brought some corn for popping…” The classic tune reminds us that while we can’t control the cold, snowy weather outside, we can seek out small joys in the moment that make the season brighter.