I saw a commercial that caught my attention. It featured eight major sports leagues joining together in a call to “take a timeout on hate.” Sports icons joined together to deliver this message: “Hate is winning out there–out on these fields, in our communities, in these streets, in our schools, and we need to stop it. Let’s take this moment to change the momentum to call a timeout on hate.” The goal was to encourage everyone to pause, consider other people’s perspectives, and understand one another, rather than react with hate.
To me, this message felt so straightforward, so obvious–a “no brainer.” But I quickly realized that what feels clear to me might not be clear to others. That’s precisely the point. We all bring different perspectives to the table, and not everyone sees things the way I do.
Finding Common Ground in a Divided World
Recently, I had two conversations that highlighted this reality. The first conversation was with a loved one who did not share my perspective. I listened and voiced my difference of opinion. Neither of us changed our stance, and the conversation left me feeling uncomfortable. I realized how challenging it is to speak up when you don’t feel heard. Although I voiced my opinion, I couldn’t shake the feeling that there was now a divide between us.
In contrast, the second conversation was with two other loved ones. At some point in the conversation at least one of us did not share the perspective of the others, but this time, we took time to discuss, listen, and truly consider the varying viewpoints. Through the conversation, I gained insight into angles that I hadn’t previously considered. It also made me more aware of what someone from the other perspective might be thinking. Neither of us changed our stance, but I left feeling enriched rather than distant, with a greater understanding and no loss of connection.
One Conversation at a Time
My wish for society is that we could all cultivate the ability to listen to one another. My hope is that we can focus more on what unites us than on what divides us. I acknowledge that not everyone sees the world as I do–but that diversity of thought is beautiful.
I recently came across a Bible verse that captures this sentiment: “I have a serious concern to bring up with you, my friends, using the authority of Jesus, our Master. I’ll put it as urgently as I can: You must get along with each other. You must learn to be considerate of one another, cultivating a life in common.” (1 Cor. 1:10 MSG)
For today, I will take this call to heart and look for ways to rediscover the power of listening. I choose understanding over division, and connection over hate.
An excellent suggestion that would benefit all of us.